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Geekasms.com turns 1

As of January 11th, this site turned a year old.  As such, I wanted to take a moment and thank the one person who is responsible for keeping it going through its first year: My Bug.


I originally started this site to blog about random things, hopefully expand my artistic endeavors, and just give myself a spot to call my own.  It quickly turned into writing about things I was learning and experienced with Bug, compared to my other children (as it was a period I hadn’t been able to experience with them), and how its opened my eyes to many things. I began to realize that I could write about more then just being a dad, that I could give some technical  insight that I picked up along the way, because as I am technically minded, I want to always try and incorporate technology into entertaining and educating.

So now, a year later, not only is she my inspiration, but my motivation and most of all my main assistant when it comes to most things I write about on here.  If I give a reaction or say how she’s done in reaction to an app or product, rest assured she has.  I have no desire to mislead anyone.  So hopefully in the next year, I can expand the coverage of this site more, bring up more subjects  for conversation on here, and see if all my kids can’t give me a few entertaining things to write about too!

So look for some changes in the upcoming weeks and please feel free to leave any comments or reactions, good or bad, or make any requests you might have on things that are covered on here. I want to increase conversation on here, and that is as much up to you as it is me. I truly want to make this site one where parents can come be geeks, and geeks can come and be parents.


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My 2 year old Picasso – Bug colors the wall

Bug's ArtworkWell, it’s happened. Something I thought had the chance of occurring but I was hoping I might be able to avoid. Bug has now drawn and colored on the wall. It happened the other night in just a blink of an eye, but none the less it occurred, in all it’s black ink pen and green crayon colored glory! (I swear, back turned 15 second, 20 tops!)
I’ve had a hard time deciding how I wanted to handle it. Of course, initially I rushed over to her, told her no, grabbed the crayon (pen was on the ground already) and proceeded to point to the wall where the offense had occurred and tell her no, she doesn’t color on the wall. My initial internal reaction was to be harsher but I quickly realized it’s not her fault. Before this moment she didn’t know she shouldn’t draw on the wall. She just knows Daddy praises her when she draws and colors on paper.  So naturally, why wouldn’t she want to do it on something bigger?  Fortunately since the other night there has been no repeats, and she has had chances, but has opted to come sit in Daddy’s lap and help highlight his notes, or write down her own opinions.
My biggest debate on this is how do I react or handle it when it happens again? Yes I said when, not if. If she’s anything like her Daddy it’ll happen again. There is still a drawing I did when I was around 3 on the inside of one of my Granny’s doors that she still talks about to this day. So what do I do? I want to be sure she knows she’s doing wrong and I want to discourage the behavior, but not to the extent that I risk taking away any enjoyment she has in drawing or coloring (self admitted selfishness on my part here too). Its something as a parent I knew I’d eventually face, and had yet until now. And now that I’m faced with it, I’m at a bit of a loss as the course of action I want to take. I guess I have until next time to sit and stew on it, between now and then though, hopefully I can keep my mini Picasso to work solely in the paper medium, and avoid drywall.

Below:  The aforementioned artwork of yours truly at a much younger and more innocent age.


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Standing On My Head

A question was presented by someone I follow on Twitter today (@bradbig) that got me thinking, and made me want to do a quick post about it.  He asked “What’s something your parents used to say to you as a child you said you’d never say, but find yourself saying all the time?”  Well this one is an immediate answer for me, partially because I make myself cringe every time I catch myself doing it.  The statement in question: “Standing on my head.”

While growing up, one thing that used to get on my nerves, and drive me crazy, especially the older I got, was when my mother would use the phrase “Standing on my head” to answer a question I posed.  I can admit that this answer was typically given to a question that had a somewhat obvious answer such as “What are you doing” but typically that was meant as a conversation starter, not so much as actually question.  It used to drive me crazy when I got that response, and it was one of the first things that ever had me think to myself “I won’t do that when I’m a parent.”  I might have actually said it out loud on occasion that I was in fact never going to use that statement, as it drove me insane being on the opposing end of it.

Well guess what?  I’m using the statement in the exact same manner my Mom used to.  Doesn’t matter what I’m doing, if the oldest or my son ask me a question, such as “What ya doing” and its blatantly obvious, I will in fact answer with “What’s it look like, standing on my head.”  And every time, a small part of my inner child dies as it curls up in a corner and weeps over me using the dreaded phrase.

So what about you?  What’s a phrase you swore as a child you’d never say to your own children that you find yourself saying all the time?

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A night away

Tonight is the first night I’ve spent away from home since Bug’s surgery, and well, its not be completely smooth for me. Ever since her surgery, she’s been a happier baby overall; livelier, more talkative and interactive. It was hard enough for me to leave her this evening the way she was playing and trying to keep my attention, and it broke my heart leaving, but just a bit ago, I couldn’t keep my heart from breaking.

Basically, Bug is refusing to go to sleep without my there. Every noise she hears, she looks at the door and starts saying my name like she expects me to come through the door. I tried talking to her on the phone, and the excitement her had in hearing my voice brought me to tears, because as happy as she was to hear me, and even though she wasn’t going to truly understand, I had to tell her that Daddy wouldn’t be there tonight. Tried telling her goodnight and she told me “No” in her precious fashion. I’d tell her that I love her, and she’d mumble something back, not quit “I love you” but it’s getting closer now that she has the tubes in her ears.

So basically in the upcoming years, I’m screwed when it comes to travel. I’ve managed to deal with her playing with me extra, or doing what she can to keep me at home and from leaving, even chasing me to the door. Once she starts getting out “I love you” or the first time she says “Daddy come home” I’m not sure I’ll be able to stay away. I’m man enough to admit that part of tonight brought me to tears, hearing her on the other side of the phone, knowing she was looking for me and waiting for me to come back, but travelling occasionally is part of it, parents everywhere do it every day. It’s just the difficulty involved, now that’s she’s starting to communicate, was not something I had prepared myself to deal with.


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Drawing with Bug

One of my favorite things right now is watching Bug draw. Something about how serious and intense her look is as she concentrates on the page, I just love it!

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A geek as a father….undermining the imagination?

With the weather finally starting to warm up, and thinking back to how the kids were last year, I’m beginning to wonder if I do more damage then good.  I’ll admit that I enjoy electronic toys, if I had more money I’d probably have more, heck I’m even considering getting an iPad, and its partially just for me to have, and another part, I think of how my kids could play with it and entertain them, and I seriously sit and question if that’s good or not.

I remember when I was a kid, when it warmed up, I’d go just walking around the woods, building forts, or just finding random things to do that would keep me busy until I was yelled for.  I remember always wanting to go play in the creek, building dams with rocks, or thinking and considering going back into the cave at Granny’s. (Something I have yet to do, but at 29 still considering it this summer).  I wonder if being as technology obsessed as I can be has rubbed off on them in a bad way.  I just don’t see the happiness or imagination in their eyes like I felt that I had.  It takes effort to get them to go outside and play, but even then, its standardized.  They aren’t using their imagination.  You ask them to play a certain way, or play like their doing something and they have a blank stair.  Their imagination is more like a trained muscle now, only knowing movements that its grown accustomed to.  If it doesn’t involve the Wii, or the Leapster, or something on TV, it just seems like they draw a blank.  The joys of imagining being a superhero turtle, or drawing your latest crazy space monster, or pretending that you’re building a fort to protect yourself from the invading army, all that has faded away it seems.  That don’t have that.

I mean sure, the argument could be made that its good that they have a chance to be associated with all this technology.  That it will benefit them down the road, as they get older and become more dependent on technology, but where do you draw the line to separate it being beneficial, and being harmful?  I see my little girl, playing with her Little People, and you can see, even at 10 months, her imagination is starting to fire up, while at 3 1/2, my son’s imagination is a spark, barely able to break past things he has already experienced or seen on TV, and at 8, Katlyn’s seems to be more that trained muscle, only having an imagination that is limited to things she’s already associated with, never being able to break outside the box.

As parents, you always want to give your children a happier childhood then you had, but having more isn’t always better.  I just feel that the numbing and the watering down of their imaginations is a harmful side effect of having a Dad that is a tech geek, and its something I feel is hurting them now rather then benefitting them.  I just hope I can find a way to rectify it, without causing more harm. 


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